Virgin Until Marriage???

i think is that one perspective, for people saving it for religious reasons, is that when people decided that saving it until marriage was something that should be in the bible (or God put it in there, what ever you beleive, his disiples wrote it as far as I am concerned) that people lived until they were like 45... or 40 even... so if they got married when they were like 17 they only had to make it work for 23-28 years, (not the 50 plus now adays if you want a singlular life long relationship) and usually the only reason it would last as long is because they'd get mistresses and they were forced... now people are liiving alot longer, sexual compatability is a huge part of a relationship and if you get married but that's not there, well, its toast, and like what if you are in love with someone... like people can love several times in a life time... and what if someones marriage ends because of a death then they remarry as people often do, are you going to penalize that person for not saving it for "the one" simply becuase their other "one" died and they were fortenate enough to meet another "one"... and what if you are like in your 30's, had a really bad relationship or 2 and you just aren't interested in marriage right away, you'd rather have a long 6 year relationship first, will you penalize that person for any sexual acts when it is a common law relationship (like marriage, just with out the churches involvement)?

just saying.... its not like there is anything to defend, like i really couldn't care less if someone wants to wait for marriage... it was just a thought so yeah.. i've had a few people give me a hard time for not following what the bible says about s3x and im usually like um yah, your talking to an athiest

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Edited by dare_devil34554 at Jun 2, 2009 11:34 PM CDT

Either way, I believe there's no rush!
I believe in making thorough decisions whether you believe in premarital s3x or not.
i'm not going to say for sure if i will or won't wait because I just don't know. I haven't exactly been in a relationship, so I don't know how it is to be in such a situation where I have to contemplate s3x at a deeper perspective.

i think it's a personal choice.
i will not wait until i'm married because
1. i don't even know if i want to get married and
2. sexual compatibility is a big part of a healthy marriage. it's not just whether someone is 'good' or not, some people just don't "fit" together (for lack of a better word).

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I think it doesn't matter either way.... like s3x is someones personal choice... like if they want to follow the bible and wait until marriage that is their choice... but I know people who have had s3x with several people before settling down and THAT is a personal choice too... neither is wrong, like who are we to judge

I think loosing your virginity isn't as big of a deal as it used to be. So loose it when you loose it I guess. Ha, that sounds bad.

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I am definitely waiting. I don't care how hard it will be, but I am because that's what Jesus wants me to do. This is a completley religious decision, and I am proud of that.

I'm going to try to wait. Unless I'm absolutely sure it's the right choice, I think i'll want to be able to know it's a good idea, like it would be in marriage. does that even make sense?

well anyways, it's both religious and safety-wise.
I don't think people should look down upon those who haven't waited, it was a personal decision they made, even if it might have turned out badly. Everyone has their own choice!

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