friends with benefits...

Come on girls, we're better then this!

Personally, I think that having sex, or whatever your doing, with someone you don't love, is pointless. It's so much more pleasurable when you love the person. Sex is not just something we do for fun, it's a very serious thing that two people enjoy when they love each other. You don't throw something like that around. Wait for your true love, and then things will be much better for the both of you.

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if you have a fwb doesn't make you an automatic sl U t.
ha.


it depends what you do, & how many times you do it.



my plan is to wait to have s3x with a boyfriend i'm in love with. like really. easier said than done. but i'll try.

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i miss you beyond belief.
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Hey! In my defense, I didn't love him at first. Haha all right, I can't say that deep down all I ever wanted was for someone to love me. Because it was :] Kelly knows me too well. :p But she also knows that while he never intended to love me, he wouldn't still be around if he didn't, right? Well, actually we don't know if that's right or not. Because as I said before, it's terribly complicated.

So anways, enough of my personal problems ha. Kelly's right. If you get into something because you're looking for someone to love you, you will get hurt regardless of how things turn out.

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"I just wanted to be loved. That's why."

"Your heart's a mess, you won't admit to it. It makes no sense but I'm desperate to connect. And you can't live like this."

"Because we’re like magnets. It doesn't matter where we go or who we're with, at the end of the night we always end up lying next to each other."

"It feels right, all these asphyxiated, self-medicated; take the white pill, you'll feel all right."

"What makes you so special?" Haha

As Blair said it can be extremely complicated and emotioinally draining but it can also be alot of fun. It depends who you're doing it with, what you're doing, why you're doing it and what the guidelines are.

Obviously it's not a good idea to get into it because you love the person and want them to love you (no offence Blair =]). You have to be realistic. If the person wanted to date you they would and vice versa. However if your just friends who both enjoy a little hanky panky theres no problem. It's also not a good idea to have multiple fwb or for the other person to because of Mono and Stds as Kiwi said. Also the mulitple partners thing makes it difficult if there ever was a pregnancy scare and it sucks getting peoples feelings involved. Guidelines are generally a good idea. Its importnant to establish an understanding that no feelings will get involved and to be honest with the person your with when it comes to boyfriends and girlfriends. It's especially important to make sure both aporties are comfortable with what is happening.

I've had both good and bad experiences with this and I know it can be a lot of fun. My bad experience was when I was 13 and too young to understand the depth of what was happening. I truly believed that the guy was gonna dump his gf for me... yea right. Fwb is great as long as you keep your feelings out of it =]

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You belong with me?

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Caitie

I always thought fwb was great and a lot of fun, and I still do love all the amazingly hot aspects of friends with benefits. However, being fwb is terribly complicated and can cause a lot of heart break. Sometimes I think the pain isn't worth the fun.

With my experience, I got attached to my main fwb and grew to love him. Now we're both always in weird places and never really sure what we want. I want him, and I know he wants me, but I know that I'm confused, so I think he's confused too. Right now we're fighting to fix our dysfunctional relationship and its really hard.

Sometimes all I want is to be with him and only him, other times I want to be with a different guy every night. But even if it's fun being with other guys, I always feel bad afterwards, like something's missing. And then I want him, but he's with another girl. It's a really really painful endless cycle and I've had some truly awful times dealing with it.

I guess when I look at the whole picture I wouldn't tell people it was a bad idea. It's fun and you can learn a lot from it, about yourself, and about guys. You can figure out what you want, and what you don't want. You just have to remember that it has its danger. And if you're prepared to deal with consequences, you should go for it. Just know that the physical consequences are a whole lot easier to deal with than the emotional ones. But if you're willing to take the risk of getting hurt, and having your heart repeatedly broken, I think you should go for it.

My experiences may have caused a lot of pain for me, but in the end I don't regret the things I've done. They're apart of me, and I wouldn't be who or where I am today if I didn't have them.

Wow. I know, that was really analytical, but that's the truth. That's what will happen. You just have to decided if that's what you really want.

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Edited by Blair_Always at 04/28/2009 9:54 PM PDT

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"I just wanted to be loved. That's why."

"Your heart's a mess, you won't admit to it. It makes no sense but I'm desperate to connect. And you can't live like this."

"Because we’re like magnets. It doesn't matter where we go or who we're with, at the end of the night we always end up lying next to each other."

"It feels right, all these asphyxiated, self-medicated; take the white pill, you'll feel all right."

"What makes you so special?" Haha

...again.. (i figured different people look in different things so yeah)


um... what do you think about friends with benefits?



i dont think its a bad thing cuase everyone does it in highschool anyways.. right??