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I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

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Last Post Jul 5, 2009 3:41 PM by: God'sGurl
offline God'sGurl
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Re: I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 5, 2009 3:41 PM
I understand your situation COMPLETELY. I had a girl that was my "BFF" for about 3 years. Then, we started fighting, and it would get better for a while, but then it would get worse. I thought that it was just a stage in the friendship, so I kept letting it go and letting it go. But then it got to where she wouldn't talk to me if her other friends were around, but then when it was just us, she acted like I was her only friend. She got mad over nothing, seriously nothing, and she was always saying horrible things about herself and our other frined. And I just got tired of it. Since it's summer break, I decided that I would just let her be and make no more effort into the friendship. But then a few days ago she emailed me and was like, We need to talk.
I am not really sure what to do. I mean, she NEVER put in any effort into the friendship when we had it. And I'm just done.
SO, lilblue, I would just let her go her own way and make new friends of your own. Unless you really want the friendship and all the pain that will come with it. Because it sounds like Gabbie probably will not change. She may come crawling back to you later, but I wouldn't let her. If she doesn't care about you, you deserve better. So go out and find it.
Hope I helped.
offline nyygtbsb5
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Registered: 7/1/09

Re: I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 5, 2009 2:47 PM

ok...this situation basically sucks
but it sounds like you deserve better than this girl
shes probably just trying to find out what she wants and stuff
and itll hurt for now
but dont spend your time thinking about what you had
try just accepting that shes gone (for now) and move on to melissa cuz she seems like a much better friend
hang out with her more and i think you guys could become close
and i know you probably dont understand why this is happening but the truth is youre not supposed to understand; youre supposed to adapt
itll hurt for a while
and if you need support or something let me know and ill be there for you
but you need to move on from her before this situation eats you alive. :)

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offline lilblue101
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From: texas
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Re: I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 4, 2009 8:12 PM

thanks for the replys, i guess ur rite... i just thought that we truly were... bf F 's

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Re: I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 4, 2009 7:23 PM

Wow. I would say just to leave her alone and if its meant to be she'll come back and apolagize. If not i think melissa sounds very nice and that you should just stay close to her

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offline beautiful*renee
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Re: I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 4, 2009 6:38 PM

just give her some space...she'll come around. And if she doesnt, then go talk to her about what happen and tell her you feel and felt and that you wanna be friends and hang out again. Until then, just hang with Melissa.

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offline lilblue101
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From: texas
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I lost my best friend!!!! :((i no its long but PLEASE READ!!!im begging u!)

Jul 4, 2009 4:10 PM

okay i know this is very very very LONG but please i just want ur opinion, plz red it or skim it idont care, i just wan u guys to tell me wat u think...... :I
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okay so this is about losing my best friend....

well it all started on our school trip to utah. ( i live in texas by the way..) well me and her..(her name is gabbie) me and gabbie were in the same group.. when we arrived at the airport idk why she kindof started to hang out with this other girl named jeimie.. i didnt hate jeimie but i didnt really like hanging out with her, but apparently gabbie did so i tried to just go with the flow(basically)....

before i continue let me just tell u more about our friendship....
we had been friends ever since we were in 5th rade around halfway through the year... and it was me gabbie and this other girl named juana ut after a whilr juana started to get annoyed by juana and so it was just me and gabbie and then our group was joined by rebecca who im still friends with now, and for the rest of the year it was just us, and we became really close and everyone knew that we were best friends....e were like this untill that week in my when we went to utah......

back to the story: well we sat almost together in the plane (we had aisle seats) and it was nice just like i had pictured it....but she kept talking mostly to jeime (screaming to the back of the plane just to talk to her) about this supposedly "hot guy" (which after a while gets really annoying..) and when we got off of the plane thats all they could talk about!! i mean im not against hotguys i mean hello?? what girl doesnt love boys? but i dont go crazy about them.. im not entirely OBSESSED. so i kept my cool and i sat next to her on the bus covering for her while she talked on the phone with her boyfriend and we were just playing around and having a good tim like always.. so then we ot to where we were gonna eat and we sat together me gabbie and ...JEIME..(ugh. kinda getting annoying..btw rebecca was hanging with some other girls that had ALWAYS been some of her best friends, so i wasnt stressing over her.....)and so i was just quiet trying to start small talk with some of jeimies friends because obviously gabbie had forgotten abut me.....

see, i'm kinda shy but i get along with everyone and talk to almot evryone whereas gabbie gets a little more along with ppl, shes a ppl person....
shes very good in school and always focused.....

but anyways... i was in a tent group with two girls named karla and naomi and another girl that i knew i was gonna get along with named melissa....and gabie was with rebecca, lynsie and leslee....
the next day we started our hikes and our "traveling group" was maria erika gabbie me and jemie.... and gabbie was spending more time with jeime and at that point i started to feel kinda lost... so when we got to the river and gabbie started aknoledging me again i felt good like we were still good friends but then she askedme to take picture of her on a rock that was in the water.. he curent was strong and this guy pushed me and i accidently dropped gabbies cmara in the waer.... she got so mad.. u culd tell and i felt soooooooooooooo bad.. i even cried. i told rebecca to ask her if she was mad at me and she said no ut i wasnt sure tha ay on the bu she didnt sit with me instead she sa with...you guessed it, jeime.... i was vry sd and sentimental so i cried keeping how i was feeling to myself... i felt like i didnt have anyone bc i rarely saw rebecca and i didnt feel as close to her like i did to gabbie... me and gabbie were real cloe we knew al of each others secrets we called each other every day and she would come to my hose to do "projects".... well, when we went to mcdonalds she sat with jeimie and didnt save me a spot like i thought she would and rebecca didnt either and guess who did? melissa... i sat with her and from that day me and melissa had become really close but it still didnt feel right to call her my best friend even though she was acting more like it than gabbie was. and soon i felt like gabbie was a different person.still i still tried to keep our fiendship alive by trying to start conversasion with her bt it all felt useless... the day when we stayed at a ote and we went to the pool she said she wasnt gonna get in ut she did and igot excited but the 1s person she looked for was jeime they stated talking about this HOT GUY and i tried to inclued myself in the conversasion so i asked: do i know him and, who is he and her answr was: no and this guy so that night i decided that i had tried enough and tat i was tired of it. i stopped trying to talk to her and having anything to do with her, i felt BETRAYED and a different type of STABBED IN THE BACK... she was just different suddenly she seemed to get TOO obsessed over older hot guys (cause we're only 12) talking about watching what she ate (where did that come from) and getting in trouble more when we were some of the best students...i got so mad at her and mostly at jeime becuse i felt she had just stolen gabbie from me and "brainwashed" her...
so the second to last day when we went to the grand canyon and we were picking wher to put our tents my group and rebeccas group had said to be together but gabbie was in rebeccas group and she wantd to be net to jeimi so whn i head that my emotions took over my mouth and i started to say not in the quietest voice that "i didnt want to get brainwashed and that i didnt wanna be close to them"but i finall agreed and i guess jeime heard and sarted crying and said thatshehad noticed that e (me and gabbie) werent friends any more and that she felt bad and a lot of drama had formed and i told her that it wasnt her fault even though i wanted to scream at the op ofmy lungs that it was AAAALLLLLLL her fault at that i was glad that she was feeling glad.....ut i didnt and then gabbie started crying becaus he hear that i was talking about her and then i stated crying cause i just felt bad and confused and lost and mad and sad andit was all ust a big mess.....when some of our friends had told me and gabbie that we needed o talk about it and tey put us in a tent o we could talk, gabbie was just talking on the phone with her mom, and then our principal called us and told us to wrk it out and then sh called her mom again and when i told her that w needed to talk about it she old me "im on the phone rite now." and i old her okay when ur ready come find me and i left..... she didnt even wanna fix the problem....melissa was my shoulder to cry on that night and i was really glad that she had been here with me.....
later that night we had a "fashion show" but it was a silly one we had to use anything we had to put together a stupid outfit... when we all came out of our tents (i was a model and so was rebecca and some other people) but me and gabbie hugged after laughing at me and i thought everything was gonna be like before but sadly it wasnt.. the next day when we got to las vegas it was all the same way, gabbie and jeimie were together and ignoring me.... and thats how it was still (we had mandatory summer school......)

so me and gabbe arent friend like before we say hi but thats it....me and melissa are closer because she was a friend when i needed her, she was there.

i just wanted to share and see your opinions theres a little more but i feel like his is long enough, if u have any comments or questions feel free to leave them i really wanna know what u guys think about this situation,
thanx for reading this,
celeste.

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Edited by lilblue101 at Jul 4, 2009 6:29 PM CDT

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