hiphop~irishstepdance!!
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Sep 6, 2009 9:39 AM
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oohh I'm so sorry! That must be really hard for you. But when you are in foster care usually you get switched out a lot so you may not be there forever. But I have a question. Why did you go into foster care and not an aunt uncle or grandparents? I was just wondering cuz that way you could still be with your family but not living with your mom or dad.
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"I am Switzerland. I refuse to be affected by territorial disputes between mythical creatures."
- Bella
[close] Alot of you probably have never heard of Team Switzerland. Basically it's for the Edward AND Jacob lovers!!! The following quote (from Eclipse Ch. 3) will help you understand better!
"I am Switzerland. I refuse to be affected by territorial disputes between mythical creatures."
- Bella
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future olympic swimmer
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Aug 30, 2009 4:32 PM
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Well, I don't think leaving would be a good idea, cause while I know alot of people who are amazing foster parents there are alot of other people who are just in it for the money.. So I would be careful there, cause even though she tried to force her religion on you it sounds like a decent home other wise.... so if you really think leaving will solve that problem, you can talk to your worker and ask him or her if he or she can make sure you get into a different home where the people are good, and genuinely care and all that.
But I would recommend talking to Janet first, tell her that, yes, you believe in God, you don't really like her preaching to you all the time, because really, its a big ignorant of her to just assume you don't mind being preached to and you probably don't really need her telling you about how appreciating the world is the thing to do, because you probably appreciate it alot more than others with being taken away from your family and having a safer place to live and missing your family and so on, so just explain to her how you feel...... if she refuses to respect that THEN i would recommend talking to her and explaining that you can't deal with her preaching to you and tell her your thinking about going to a different home because it's to much for you to deal with... then see what she has to say, if it goes bad or if she doesn't stop then talk to your worker
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God'sGurl
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Aug 21, 2009 4:12 PM
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You're right. If you don't want to go to church now, Janet shouldn't make you. But... maybe if you get past your frustration to her insensitivity and go to church to see what you can learn about God, it may change your life forever. For instance, last night at churh, I got baptized in the Holy Spirit. And today, I feel so much more confident and upbeat about everything. I'm not saying you have to believe it, I'm just saying that if you give it a try, you might be surprised how well it turns out. But you're right. Janet shouldn't force you if you're not ready, cause it won't do any good anyways if you don't want to be there. I hope I helped. I probably didn't. But, I tried. I will also be praying for you  |
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Aug 21, 2009 3:32 PM
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talk to her. Tell her you respect her ways but you also have your own ways. Tell her you don't want to argue and tell her what you told us!
I understand the pain of the foster care system!
I was in foster care for 3 years form age 5-8 and i got bounced between roughly 24 homes.
But now I am in my official home and I have been in this home for 5 years and I am going to b officially adopted in 3 months! YAY!!!!
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kellie bee!
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Aug 16, 2009 7:41 PM
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Wow that is kind of a tough situation. I totally agree with don'tknowhwatyourtalkenabout. Being honest will probably make you feel a lot better, and who knows, maybe Janet will be really accepting and considerate of your feelings.
My family is made up of 10 kids right now. 3 biological, 5 adopted, and 2 current foster children. One of them, Bradley, we are going through the adoption process with, and we also hope to adopt Sophia. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been in foster care and how many homes have you been in?
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Of all the hopes and dreams I could have prayed for
Here you are
If I could have one dance forever
I would take you by the hand
Tonight it's you and I together
I'm so glad that you're my man
And if I lived a thousand years
You know I never could explain
The way I lost my heart to you
that day
06/10/04 ♥
*used to be waterpoloforeverrr
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.:xXKatherineXx:.
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Aug 13, 2009 1:07 AM
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Thanks for the help |
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don'tknowwhatyourtalkenabout
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Aug 2, 2009 7:59 AM
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for starters u need to be honest with your foster mom. Tell her that you respect the fact that her family is big in church and its not that you are not its the fact that she is pushing this on you and that she needs to respect the fact how you feel.
I know pple like this also and they don't undertsand. They wont pple to be like them and believe the things they beileve in, it don't work that way. Pple have to do it themselves.
I would just talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. I would seriously tell her that this is making EXSTREMLY uncomfortable and that you want a different famliy. If I remeber right I think they have month meetings that they have to report how things are going. I would see if you could go to one of those meetings and tell them what you are feeling. They should help you..........or talk to a councler at school when school starts.
Sorry SOOOOOO long!
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.:xXKatherineXx:.
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Aug 2, 2009 2:00 AM
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Hey,
So I used to have one of these accounts but I deleted it because I wasn't really using it but I signed up for it because I need some help and I'm not sure who to ask. Theres alot of people who I could tell but right now I'm not even sure if this is a smart thing to be thinking about.
So anyways I'm in foster care (hopefully theres somebody out there who knows how painful it is who might be able to help me) My dad is abusive and my mom has bipolar and they are both unfit to take care of me so I went into foster care. At first I was really happy that I got into a foster home so I didn't have to put up with my dads abuse anymore. But now its kindof getting hard for me. (sorry if this is a bit long please keep reading) My foster moms name is janet she has 3 kids and a husband who never really talk to me that much. Janet is one of those serious christains which I have no problem with except for the fact that she tries to make me go to church with her and tells me all about god and stuff. Its not that I don't believe in god but I'm not big into religion and I would appreciate it more if she would repect that. I've never told anybody this and I really need to get it out; she doesn't seem that smart and it annoys me she's one of those people who go on about the stupidist crap e.g. "today I went to church and susan was there we havent seen eachother for so long she told me about how we need to appreciate the world more I really think she's right you know you should try that" omg shutup I'm sorry if I'm being rude but please shutup! I already know about that and I do apreciate the world and I don't care about you're friend susan who I don't know. It just gets really annoying when you have to sit there and listen to somebody go on about things you already know. It's hard to respect people like that.
I was feeling really crappy tonight all that crap was annoying me.I've been thinking and maybe this isn't the right foster home for me I don't want to make this too long (thanks for still reading) I think maybe I should try getting a new foster home but I'm scared that it will screw up my life I WISH I COULD JUST BE WITH MY FAMILY ugh why does it have to be this way
can anybody help me sort this out please? I don't know what to do.
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