brittany2011biggs
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 6, 2009 10:20 AM
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you should not be with him again!! i had the same problem and i moved on and now im happier without him!!
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a widow in paradise
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 6, 2009 10:16 AM
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So this only happened once? If it's only happened one time, then maybe it was a little drastic to break up with him & turn your parents against him & all that. I bet if you would have had a conversation with him & re-set the boundaries, you probably could've avoided a considerable amount of drama.
I can almost bet I know what he was trying to do, just from experience. Even though youu had boundaries laid out, in the heat of the moment boundaries sometimes get broken, and it's not always a bad thing. He was probably seeing if that would happen...it doesn't mean he doesn't respect youu or just wants to get in your pants, he's curious, and i can imagine as most teenage boys are.
So if he has apologized and still wants to be with youu, I would say after a good heart-to-heart, I'd get back together with him.
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skinnyjeans.
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 6, 2009 9:57 AM
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wow evanna thats a little far. its not like he has repeatedly done this to her. chances are he was just caught up in the moment and his hormones were really going off at the time. it could be that is he really is sorry for doing it. but hey we dont know him so we dont know that or not. all i have to say is if you want to give him a second chance then go for it. thats all up to you, not anyone else. my bf has messed up a couple times but happened is hard to explain, anyways i stuck with him and we are very happy together. however im probably a little older than you and i have been with him a long time (almost 3 years) so the situation is a little different for me. if you have only been dating him a short time or are younger then remember that there are plenty of other people out there. and if you are completely fine with not giving him a second chance then that is fine too. just because he feels bad about what he did doesnt mean you should feel bad about how you responded to it.
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ditzylovesu2
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 10:08 PM
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well guys as we know... sometimes get a little too carried away. personally if my boyfriend [yea the one i don't have..] did that to me and i had previously set boundaries against it (in all honestly i wouldnt set them) i would probably not have told my parents and would not have broken up with him. i would have told him not to do it again if he respected me and if he did it would be over.
thats how i would have handled it, but in your case it sounds maybe like you are a bit more religous then i am and are closer with your parents. so it depends on your age. i would say 15and younger at time of incident dont give him a secend chance. 16 or older do give him a second chance.
just my opinion
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babycakes.
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 10:06 PM
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my opinion:
not a huge deal. he amy have thought you were ok with doing these things, and it's a mistake on your part for not telling him. if he constantly did it, that tells me that you were ok with it to begin with. he touches your boob, you let him. he lomes down to you butt, you continue to let him. then he wants to go further and you continue to let him. and now that you think about it, "he" was wrong. i know that he would've stopped after you told him no in the first place.
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♥iWillAlways♥You
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 9:59 PM
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Well.
I think it depends on a few things.
a.) His maturity level
b.) Your maturity level.
c.) The relationship at the time.
d.) Ages.
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Shylilbutterfly
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 9:22 PM
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he knows he was wrong. we are still talking and he wants a second chance someday. we will still be friends though.
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Moo Tweety
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 7:03 PM
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personally i wouldn't go that far....court? no i would just tell him he was wrong and that he was EXTREMELY rude and if he loved you he wouldn't have been that rude. i wouldn't advise going back to him. he did that once and who is to say he wouldn't again. i would just move on and forget him.
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evanna
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 6:36 PM
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i think you should kick his butt. A guy shouldn't touch you down there unless your married and is having sex. Since he grabbed your butt and he touched your boob, get a restraining order. You and your parents should go to court and put that disgusting pervert to justice. Don't give him a second chance.
My advice: If a guy violates your body either take it to court or kick his butt. Don't go back to him.
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Shylilbutterfly
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 6:21 PM
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this was all on the same day and my mother was in the other room.
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Shylilbutterfly
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 6:17 PM
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he put his hand down my shirt and pants, grabbed my butt, grabbed my boob and he tried to touch "down there"
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evanna
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Re: does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 6:00 PM
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what type of stuff did he try to do?
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Shylilbutterfly
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does he deserve a second chance?
Nov 5, 2009 5:55 PM
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okay my boyfriend (now ex) completely overstepped boundaries i had set in place. he tried to do a bunch of stuff that i wasn't okay with and my mom was in the other room when he did this. my parents found out because i told them what happened. i broke up with him and he still wants to be with me. my parents have lost all their respect for him and the hate him. they want to hurt him. i don't know if i trust him. he says he still loves me, that he still wants to be with me, i'm the only woman he wants to be with and a bunch of other stuff i can't remember at the moment. i want to move on but at the same time i still want to be with him. what do you all think?
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