Cliques can turn making new friends into some kind of audition. Instead of getting to know you, to see if you have similar interests, hobbies and sense of humor, you’ve got to have the right clothes, the right hair, know the right people and say the right things. The truth is, even though the girls inside most cliques seem cool and confident, they’re usually insecure, tend to follow the crowd, and don’t have many opinions of their own.

So what can you do to steer clear of cliques and form true friendships with people who like the real you?
• Know who you are and what you value. Ask yourself if you want to be friends with these girls because you have similar interests and ideals, or because you want to feel accepted.
• Get involved in activities that make you feel good about yourself. You’ll end up being surrounded with like-minded people who enjoy the same hobbies – a good combination for a great friendship.
• Have a mind of your own. Don’t be afraid to have an opinion and voice it. Real friends will appreciate your courage and honesty.

Do you have a problem with cliques at your school? How do you and your friends deal with them? Or maybe you’re in a clique and need a little advice on getting out. Add a comment to let it all out.

Until next time,
Miss Maxi
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