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Avoiding Cliques and Forming Friendships
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Cliques can turn making new friends into some kind of audition. Instead of getting to know you, to see if you have similar interests, hobbies and sense of humor, you’ve got to have the right clothes, the right hair, know the right people and say the right things. The truth is, even though the girls inside most cliques seem cool and confident, they’re usually insecure, tend to follow the crowd, and don’t have many opinions of their own.

So what can you do to steer clear of cliques and form true friendships with people who like the real you?
• Know who you are and what you value. Ask yourself if you want to be friends with these girls because you have similar interests and ideals, or because you want to feel accepted.
• Get involved in activities that make you feel good about yourself. You’ll end up being surrounded with like-minded people who enjoy the same hobbies – a good combination for a great friendship.
• Have a mind of your own. Don’t be afraid to have an opinion and voice it. Real friends will appreciate your courage and honesty.

Do you have a problem with cliques at your school? How do you and your friends deal with them? Or maybe you’re in a clique and need a little advice on getting out. Add a comment to let it all out.

Until next time,
Miss Maxi
a Kotex Resource
Posted by offline MissMaxi Oct 6, 2008 11:07 AM CDT
16 Comments
Yeah, the popular boys and girls... can't stand them at all! But you know what, I don't even want to be in that group cause they are all nasty. Literally. Like I know the girls drink and do stuff with a bunch of different guys and all the guys only want to go for girls with great bodies and a pretty face! Well guess what!? I don't drink and do all that stuff and I don't want to be with different guys who only like me for my body and looks! I want to be a true good person and have a guy that likes me for me! So, all you girls out there not in this clique: Be Happy! :) Do you really want to be like that?!

And if you are in the "nerdy" clique, as long as you have good friends, that's all that matters!

Another thing: I know it isn't good to have cliques, but it doesn't make sense to me... like at our youth group there are the girls who try to do what we think the bible says and all that, and the other group doesn't. But I mean, our little group talks to the other people all the time but we don't want to hang around them a lot because they will effect us. Make sense? Cliques aren't good, but what can you do when a group of girls are doing right and the other isn't? They tend to get together.

I don't understand! :O
by offline Breetynne Jun 12, 2009 8:10 PM
i haven't been in a clique.but i have good friends.
by offline Crazybre_1994 Nov 4, 2008 11:28 AM
i was in a clique once of just fake people -- basically.
i said something that they wanted to do was wrong for
them, and made me look bad by hanging around them.
i soon realized that i am better than that and they stopped
being fake. isn't that cool >
by offline xoxnikki14 Nov 4, 2008 10:59 AM
cliques are annoying. at my school theres the jocks mainly and they r all guys and theres the popular grrls who r seperate and the nerdy people and the people in between
by offline eleanor Nov 1, 2008 11:30 AM
me and my friends are not part of the cliques. we want nothing to do with it. and there is only one clique at our school and we call it the populars. they are so mean and nasty and backstabbers too
by offline AbbsGurl99:)) Nov 1, 2008 11:26 AM
:((( sorry 2 hear that gossipchick21... but cool clique name!!!
by offline AbbsGurl99:)) Nov 1, 2008 11:23 AM
I HAVE NO IDEA HOW 2 CREAT A BOLG @ ALL IM NEW 2 THIS
by offline MZ. CHOCHOLAT Oct 28, 2008 8:00 PM
I wish cliques were illegal;\
by offline Singer365 Oct 26, 2008 3:44 PM
> Cliques can turn making new friends into some kind of
> audition. Instead of getting to know you, to see if
> you have similar interests, hobbies and sense of
> humor, you’ve got to have the right clothes, the
> right hair, know the right people and say the right
> things. The truth is, even though the girls inside
> most cliques seem cool and confident, they’re usually
> insecure, tend to follow the crowd, and don’t have
> many opinions of their own.
>
> So what can you do to steer clear of cliques and form
> true friendships with people who like the real you?
> • Know who you are and what you value. Ask yourself
> if you want to be friends with these girls because
> you have similar interests and ideals, or because you
> want to feel accepted.
> • Get involved in activities that make you feel good
> about yourself. You’ll end up being surrounded with
> like-minded people who enjoy the same hobbies – a
> good combination for a great friendship.
> • Have a mind of your own. Don’t be afraid to have an
> opinion and voice it. Real friends will appreciate
> your courage and honesty.
>
> Do you have a problem with cliques at your school?
> How do you and your friends deal with them? Or maybe
> you’re in a clique and need a little advice on
> getting out. Add a comment to let it all out.
>
> Until next time,
> Miss Maxi
> a Kotex Resource

I hate cliqies and wish they were outlawled;)
by offline Singer365 Oct 26, 2008 3:43 PM
well iam in my own kind of world cuz i don't care what people say about me.But some people do and that makes me try more harder at trying to help them.So at this time of life try not to care and i like cliques but iam in one but not a mean one accept if there mean to me.
by offline destiny96 Oct 21, 2008 6:58 PM
well I think cliques can get very out of hand like what if you have friend that ask you ''hey do you want to be in our clique you may be like yea but whats going to happen between you and your best friend relationship when they don't won't her they just want you,but other than they are okay.
by offline reese123 Oct 21, 2008 6:03 PM
vonna 1 i dont ether!
by offline k33aNa Oct 19, 2008 5:29 PM
groups can be fun
by offline nesha101 Oct 13, 2008 7:35 AM
okay, well i have a little friend group...i don't know if you would call it a clique, but i sure do always feel like the third wheel. We've been friends since freshmen year and now were juniors...ever since we started being friends we told each other everything. but now it feels like they don't tell me anything, its annoying!

and another thing...i don't understand why no one likes me. everyday i try making new friends with people but it seems as hard as i try no one wants to give me a chance. i don't know what to do! I am always myself and i'm always nice to people...but its not enough i guess.

and why do people have to be so mean and talk behind my back...i don't know what to do to stop that. I don't talk behind peoples backs!


help?
by offline dancexdork Oct 11, 2008 10:20 AM
i have know idea how to create a blog
by offline Vonna_1 Oct 10, 2008 4:29 PM
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